Love → Wellness | Part 1
If you love thyself, then wellness will follow
Bottom line, if you want a true foundation for wellness in all areas of your life. If you want to be truly in peace, love must be in your heart and soul. But how does that happen…?
First and foremost, one must love themselves. If you do not treat yourself with care. If you constantly have a negative opinion of yourself. If you are not your biggest fan, then you for certain do not love yourself. No matter what your past has been. Whether charmed, treacherous, or in between. Forgive your antagonists, cherish those protagonists, and realize it is all water under the bridge. All your experiences came and went. Today is a new day, the future is exciting. Learn to love the person you've become. Dream about the person you want to be. Take great care of yourself. Treat yourself with respect. Work towards clearly defined, reachable, personal goals. Achieve them, then set new ones and repeat. Move on forward in life.
Often, I have come across women in my personal life whom clearly do not love themselves. Well, this was my interpretation anyway. As was evident by how they treated me. And, by whom they dated or were married to, prior to and proceeding our relationship.
Needless to say, this brought on a great deal of stress to my doorstep.
They seemed to have a knack for projecting their own negative thoughts and fears onto me…which was confusing, different, and annoying. Many times I found myself thinking to myself, “Why are they saying this to me? This does not make any sense.”
It was as if they were incapable of being present in the moment to enjoy the overall experience. What they were capable of was throwing a wrench in the works just when things were about to reach a crescendo. An ultimate act of self sabotage if you will.
Many times I would relay this to them out loud, with a concerning tone. In a way to try to understand where they are coming from, and why they were thinking in this way.
Alas, these attempts to connect with them were futile for their emotional doors were closed. Other men I would see them with resembled more of a placeholder than a nominally animated human being. These very same women I was once falling in love with, or were still in love with, literally became used and abused by their new male appendaged paper weights. These human limbed, semi-warm blooded, and intellectually vacuous beings were ultimately a reflection of what my former lady friends felt they deserved. Seldom did they learn that if you settle for nothing now, you'll settle for nothing later.
All because they did not love themselves. Again, I'm speculating. But, I do feel like I am on to something. In my experience with those that in fact have a great deal of self-love and self-respect, I get treated very nicely by them. And they remain in my life. That… THAT is key…!
If the thought of learning to love yourself alone is scary, reach out to those whom you understand love you. No matter how much or little, we all have a few individuals around us that show us love. Lean on them for support. Take their kindness as inspiration. Breath it in. Use this energy to give you strength. Those that truly have a capacity for love will not mind. It will make them happy.
Which, is a perfect segue to love from friendship…coming up in part 2.
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